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Steve McNair: Inspiration or Failure?

by Cheezer
created July 08, 2009, last edited September 23, 2009
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Losing is not Failure

Super Bowl XXXIV went down in history as one of the greatest Super Bowls ever.

The high-flying “Greatest Show on Turf “ St. Louis Rams jumped out to a 9-0 half-time lead and a 16-0 lead halfway through the third.  It was not nearly the offensive explosion that most were expecting, but the Tennessee Titans defense was doing their job.

With big play receiver Yancey Thigpen injured, the Titans had to rely on the rough and tumble running of Eddie George, the inexperienced wide receivers Isaac Byrd, Derrick Mason and Kevin Dyson, and the underneath routes of tight ends Frank Wycheck and Jackie Harris.  Any big plays from the Titan offense had to come from the footwork of quarterback Steve McNair.

During the next 20 minutes of football, the Titans scratched and clawed their way to a 16-16 tie.  A 23-yard McNair run on 2nd and 6 left the Titans knocking on the door for their first touchdown.  Two plays later the Titans were on the board.  The failed 2-point conversion attempt left the Titans trailing 16-6.  The next Eddie George touchdown was possible because McNair converted a crucial 4th and 1 sneak where he refused to go down.  The Titans trailed 16-13 with 7:21 to go in the game.  A McNair scramble, a couple of Eddie George runs and some underneath passes helped the Titans set-up the game tying field goal with 2:15 to go.

It took the Greatest Show on Turf 18 seconds to reclaim the lead as Kurt Warner hit Isaac Bruce for a 73-yard touchdown pass. 23-16 Ram lead.

If the Titans were to tie the game, they had to go 88 yards in 1:48 with only one timeout.  The Titans chipped away at the Rams with McNair scrambles and underneath passes.  The result was first and goal with 5 seconds to go.  McNair’s pass to Kevin Dyson was complete but the Rams’ Mike Jones came up big with the tackle at the one yard line. 

The Titans lost the game but won the day.  If you use the measure that effort, perseverance, and sportsmanship are what defines a winner; McNair, and the Titans, did indeed, prove victorious.


Charity is Community Leadership

Three days after Hurricane Katrina destroyed the Gulf Coast in 2005, Steve McNair, from Mount Olive, Mississippi worked with Brett Favre, from Kiln, Mississippi to send shipments of food, water, and generators to rural Mississippi.  Later, McNair and Titan teammates, spearheaded efforts to fill more trucks with needed supplies and raise over $80,000 in cash.

As many more athletes rallied to the relief efforts on the Gulf Coast, it needs to be noted that Steve McNair was there at the forefront.


Shirking Responsibilities is Failure

On July 4, 2009 Steve McNair was found shot to death in a Nashville condominium that he co-owned with a 20-year old waitress from Dave and Buster’s. 
The waitress, Sahel Kazemi, was also co-owner of a 2007 Cadillac Escalade with McNair .

According to neighbors, McNair spent so much time at that condo that they thought he lived there.

Steve McNair was a married father of four boys.  I do not know the nature of his marriage with Mechelle, but I do know that his irresponsible behavior has left those four boys without a father.  His failure to put his children above his own personal gratification has left an indelible mark on his life and memory.

To paraphrase the comments of Jason Whitlock, anytime we discuss Steve McNair the leader, we have to remember that leadership begins in the home.

Sources: Parasailing Photo from TMZ, USATODAY Play By Play, Youtube for Video of last drive


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RomiezzoLegend
144 days ago
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Steve McNair's legacy is great, and it's a shame that some people will overlook it due to the fact that he was shot to death (4 times!). Although he has an affair with this Sahel Kazemi girl,

He was a great guy though. Helping with all these charities and encouraging people to donate after Hurricane Katrina... that was just amazing.

A phenomenal quarterback, and one of the first black QB's in the NFL. Back in the day, you should be a wide receiver or a defensive back. McNair didn't like the fact that people were telling him to basically "know his role". He put his career on the line, if you ask me, by sticking to his QB position, and he did great... as you can tell from reading the first couple paragraphs in this article.

You will be missed, Steve. Thank you for all you have done... on and off the field.
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Steel TownDraft Pick
144 days ago
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I don't think it is fair to say McNair is responsible for leaving his four kids without a father. In my mind the responsibility lies on the shooters hands. A girl walks down a dark alley an night and gets raped. I certainly would not blame her even though we all know it was probably a bad idea not to go down the dark alley. Cheating on his wife was definitely a blemish on his mark in history, but I can not begin to blame him for his own murder. IMHO he is the victim in this situation.
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CheezerAll-Star
144 days ago
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I think I need to correct your interpretation ST.

McNair left those kids without a father long before he was shot. Even if he hadn't been shot, he'd still be an absentee dad who was spending the holiday weekend with his mistress instead of with his children.

Yes, this kind of thing happens all too often. That doesn't make it any more acceptable.

My point is, before we canonize him and call him hero, remember that he was selfish in his personal life.
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JuTMSY4Legend
144 days ago
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Does anyone know what the deal was with his wife?
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Steel TownDraft Pick
144 days ago
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The thing is Cheeze, we don't know why he was spending so much time at the condo away from his wife and children. I just can't imagine a scenario where his wife would be OK with him not coming home for long stretches of time unless there was some sort of marital problem whereby he wasn't welcome at home. Of course that is purely speculation on my part.
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Steel TownDraft Pick
144 days ago
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And, I don't condone the cheating on his wife, even if there was a problem with their marriage. You are correct that that type of behavior is unacceptable.
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JuTMSY4Legend
144 days ago
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My understanding is that it was clear he was with another women...plus, if you're cheating, you typically avoid being photographed I'm thinking they were separated, but again, I don't know (like ST)
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CheezerAll-Star
144 days ago
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I'm not worried about the wife. She's an adult. I talk about McNair the father, not McNair the husband. Perhaps you are right and he wasn't welcome at home. I'm not going to go down that road because it just leads to the inevitable question of "why?". Too many questions and at the end of the day, not really our business...

...Until some people mention what a great person he was. Like everyone else, he's a person. Human frailties and human failures. The memories and stories need to show both sides of the man. A lot like I tried to do here.
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JuTMSY4Legend
144 days ago
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Well, according to this she didn't know he was cheating...
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RomiezzoLegend
144 days ago
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I absolutely agree, Cheezer. Before making any conclusions and judging, you have to look at both sides of the story here.

I almost think that he was trying to end the "affair", personally. Think about it. McNair got shot four times (twice in the head, twice in the chest). McNair's "girlfriend" got a shot in the head only once and she went down on the gun.

Authorities always talk about the motive... and why someone would want to murder the victim; as we all know, authorities have defined it as a murder. So, my guess is that he was either going to break up with her, or they had a major fight (which would've ended it), and Kazemi shot McNair until she knew he died, and then she committed suicide by putting a bullet in her head...
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Davis21wylieMVP
144 days ago
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Yeah, you can't judge his personal life from afar without knowing what was really going on, and I don't think we'll ever know that, because the two parties involved took that info to their graves. And it isn't really our business in the first place. Whatever the situation was, whether his wife didn't know about the cheating or they had an "arrangement", whether he was an absentee dad or not, whatever, he didn't deserve to die for it, that much is certain. Was Steve McNair flawed? Show me somebody who isn't. But it shouldn't have ended the way it did for him.
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People PeoplePee Wee
144 days ago
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It's always better to be remembered for how you lived rather than how you died.
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JustlittleolemeJV Squad
144 days ago
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So much to say...You can certainly judge his personal life. He was legally married, was with another woman who was not his wife and ended up murdered. His judgement led to his murder. His judgement also left his children fatherless. He was an exceptional football player which is a totally separate issue from the person he was off the field.
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Steel TownDraft Pick
144 days ago
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If you said his judgment led to a divorce I could understand, but to say his judgment led to his murder is rediculous. I don't know the stats but I would venture to say that the vast majority of extramarital affairs do not end up with fatal shootings.
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Davis21wylieMVP
144 days ago
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So are you saying everyone who cheats on the significant other deserves to be killed? Because that would decrease the world's population by a pretty significant factor.
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JustlittleolemeJV Squad
144 days ago
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I didn't say he deserved to be killed. If you play with fire, you get burned. If he wasn't there, it couldn't have happened. His judgment put him there.
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Davis21wylieMVP
144 days ago
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But that's like saying about people who die in a car accident, "oh, their judgment put them there, if they hadn't been there it couldn't have happened." Well, yes, it's true -- if they hadn't been out driving they wouldn't have died that day, but in both cases you don't go into the situation expecting to get yourself killed. And you probably have a higher probability of dying in a car wreck than you do from cheating on your wife. You can argue his immorality led to death, but who are you to make that judgment? What he did wasn't illegal, and the rest is between him, his family, Ms. Kazemi, and most importantly, the Almighty. Let them sort it out, it's not your place.
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JuTMSY4Legend
144 days ago
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Hi Mrs. Cheez...
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Taytay 24All-American
144 days ago
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I'm in the middle on this, but D21W, you make a false comparison. McNair's affair may not have been illegal, but barring further information, it does appear to be immoral. Certainly driving a car is neither. JLOM has a point: if McNair hadn't put himself in this position, he would still be alive today. That is not to say that he deserved it or that it was an expected outcome, only that he put himself in the wrong place, wrong time, with the wrong person.
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JustlittleolemeJV Squad
144 days ago
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Thanks Taytay...you got my point!
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Davis21wylieMVP
144 days ago
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My only point is that the morality of the situation is not for us to judge because we were not involved in the matter and we know almost none of the facts. The only things we can fairly judge McNair on is his playing career, his documented humanitarian work, and the fact that whatever he did leading up to his death, he didn't break the law. Everything else is just speculation on a personal matter you don't really know anything about.
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Taytay 24All-American
144 days ago
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Personally, I'm not judging him at all. In most cases like this, I separate the personal from the professional, and so here I remember McNair for his heroic plays on the field. I agree with you: the personal issues is a private concern of his family. McNair's relationship to me was athlete-fan, and that relationship is all I'm willing to judge him on.
Having said that, I still maintain that McNair would be alive today if he was not having an affair. It isn't my right to judge him, but to deny what little we do know (ie: he was with another woman, and according to Jut's link above, Mechelle did not know of the affair) for the sake of legalism is missing the point.
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People PeoplePee Wee
144 days ago
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Whether he was immoral or not is not why he was killed. He was killed because he was with an crazy, immature and obviously unstable chick (the DUI incident had some affect, too - whether he pawned it off on her or whatever). THAT is where he made his mistake.
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Davis21wylieMVP
144 days ago
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I agree that he would likely be alive today had he not been in that situation, that much really cannot be denied. But, starting from that statement of truth, there's a temptation for some to change it around to: "he deserved to die because he was in that situation". No one here has come out and said it like that, mind you, but I've seen that statement elsewhere and it seems to be difficult to avoid a conversation on the matter without someone edging toward that sentiment. It's definitely a sad, complicated situation for everyone involved, no doubt. I was only trying to express that the people on the outside should stick to what they know to be true, rather than making judgments based on things they imagine to be true.
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People PeoplePee Wee
144 days ago
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yeah, but crazy chicks are hotter in the sack... Let this be a lesson kids. Women are EVIL.
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CheezerAll-Star
144 days ago
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DDub- I'm going to cherry pick one of your statements because I have a question. You say, "..the morality of the situation is not for us to judge..." How is that possible? Morality is defined as the quality of being in accord with standards of right or good conduct. So, now I ask who defines what is right or good conduct? I say society definitely plays a part in what is considered proper conduct. Since we are society, we have every right to judge the morality of a situation.

All that aside, I am not trying to be overly sanctimonious with this article. I had seen many articles around the tubes that commend McNair as a leader in humanitarian efforts and for helping to break new ground in the NFL and serve as an inspiration to young aspiring quarterbacks of color. I wanted to highlight some of his achievements, yet I also wanted to point out that I believe character and leadership begins at home.

Good discussion anyway.


Thanks for contributing everyone.
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Steel TownDraft Pick
144 days ago
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Here is another comparison that may be more to your liking Tay. Say a some girl at Pick-your-State University gets too drunk at a frat party and ends up getting date rapped by a frat boy with two popped collars. Will you and JLOM say "well, she got too drunk and put herself in the wrong place at the wrong time and her actions led to her unfortunate circumstances"? I'm guessing no.
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Davis21wylieMVP
144 days ago
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I don't believe we can, in good conscience, judge others from afar on moral matters that fall outside the purview of the law. I believe the law is the socially agreed-upon code of conduct of which you speak -- we agree that certain actions are illegal, and there are consequences for committing those acts. But when you step into that gray area outside the legal realm, I don't think it's possible to be justified in making a moral assessment unless the situation directly involves you (or at the very least, unless you know all of the facts). It's hard not to have an opinion, and perhaps I'm even having an opinion by not having an opinion, if that makes sense... But I still try hard not to pass moral judgments in situations that don't involve me. I don't think anyone but God is truly justified in making those kinds of decisions.
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Taytay 24All-American
144 days ago
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It is certainly a more relevant comparison, but you are incorrect in your assumption of my answer (I won't speak for JLOM): I would say yes. But I repeat: that doesn't mean that the outcome was deserved or expected, nor does it in any way excuse the guilty rapist in your scenario or in the McNair case, the murderer. But the fact remains that an unnecessary and questionable risk was taken.
Another similar situation is being played out in Dallas at the moment, thankfully with less serious consequences so far: Dirk Nowitzki and his con artist ex-fiance. I would suspect that Dirk would be the first to tell you that he made an error in judgment when he got mixed up with her without first checking out her background more thoroughly.
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Davis21wylieMVP
144 days ago
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That's a very good point, Steel Town.
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RawbeezeitzMajor Leaguer
142 days ago
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McNair didn't put himself in a situation to get shot. If you play with fire, you do get burnt, but you don't get 2 bullets in the head and 2 in the chest. If he'd been a gangbanger and got shot in a drug deal gone wrong, then that would be putting himself into a potentially murderous situation. How many men have mistresses that DON'T kill them?
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Taytay 24All-American
142 days ago
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But I repeat: that doesn't mean that the outcome was deserved or expected, nor does it in any way excuse the guilty rapist in your scenario or in the McNair case, the murderer. But the fact remains that an unnecessary and questionable risk was taken.
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JustlittleolemeJV Squad
144 days ago
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Hi there :)
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Sj-hypocycloidAll-American
144 days ago
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This is such a sad story. Take your pick: four fatherless kids, a fine athletic flame extinguished forever and a once unblemished reputation now sullied. No matter what he did, McNair deserves to have his say...but he can't.


I'm neither trying to justify his actions nor am I trying to condone them. This is bigger than me. As with any of the recent rash of celebrity passings, rememberance is up to the individual. I choose to remember his play on the field. The kind of grit and determination that made him such a watchable QB.


I know it is skirting some issues to leave the seedier side of things untouched, but perhaps this is my defense mechanism. And I will admit that when it comes to some other well known deaths, I have not been as willing to ignore the seedier aspects of things. Thereby proving that, as a human, I can only react honestly when given a certain amount of data.


I am looking back and wondering if this ramble makes any sense at all. This is such an odd, shocking death. I certainly hope that his wife and kids have a good support system. Something like this could have some long-term effects. I wish them well.
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RawbeezeitzMajor Leaguer
142 days ago
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I think what this story demonstrates is that Steve McNair was a man. He did a lot of good things, he did some questionable things. We watch these guys do amazing things on TV, see a puff piece on ESPN about charitable donations, and we glorify these guys. Then we hear about an affair, or missed child support payments, or a drug addiction, and all of a sudden the guy becomes a major disappointment, or even a "failure."


My favorite line from Eight Men Out: "People are human."
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